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2 LOA Secrets to Attract Love & Romance

How to Manifest Love and Attract a Relationship using Law of AttractionAspiring lovers wanting to manifest a romance or spouse will find all sorts of good law of attraction tips for it, including:

But there are two secrets that savvy creators know make all the difference in the world when it comes to drawing in the love of a lifetime.

These aren’t popular suggestions, but they are powerful ones. So if you’re serious about getting jiggy with someone’s heart, here’s how you’d do well to proceed:

Secret #1: Love yourself.

If you want someone else to love you, you get to lead the way.

Not because no one will love you if you don’t, but because you won’t feel it until you do.

We get what we vibrate, so if you want someone who loves and adores you, you’ll want to know how to love and adore yourself.

The more challenging that is for you to do, the more important (and potent) it is to practice.

And if you don’t know how to love yourself, it’s as simple as treating yourself the same way you would anyone else you love. In thought and action. You know how to be good to someone else, right? Be that kind of good to yourself and you’re well on your way to allowing a fabulous love into your life.

Secret #2: Love being single.

If you’re trying to manifest a lover out of resistance to not having one, you’ll like just perpetuate the single state.

What really cues Universe for your good time in the romance department is getting okay with – or better yet, embracing – being unaffiliated.

A lot of folks are nervous to do this, because they think they’ll end up alone forever if they let themselves enjoy it.

It’s the exact opposite.

You can’t have a good time with another person until you know how to have a good time alone.

It’s that law of attraction thing, you know. Whatever you’re vibrating is what you get more of. So if you’re in a state of “I don’t like this; I don’t want this” you’re just gonna get more of it.

Which means getting happy being single is one of the most powerful ways to attract a new love.

And if you don’t know how to be happy being single, just ask any of your married friends about the upside of rolling solo. They’ll help open your eyes to the benefits of your current situation.

Plus, when you love life as is, you become very attractive – in more ways than one. Just make sure you don’t give that up when you commit to your new lover. 🙂

  • May 17, 2015
  • Irena says:

    Thanks Jeannette,
    I can see now where my thoughts are gone.
    Nothing like writing it and reading it back.
    M- stop making manifesting your ‘full time job’. Yes- live mediocre life and be gratefull. You will start to see syncronicities. I think you took it too seriously.

  • Jeannette says:

    When letting go and giving up feels better, that is absolutely the thing to do.
    You might enjoy Drew Rozell’s book called Let It Go, but I also like your idea of throwing in the towel on conscious creation for a while (or forever), too. So maybe don’t read it.
    Anything that offers you relief is the right direction.
    I will say – I don’t suspect this is your case, M – but some people “let go” in order to make it happen. And that’s not really truly letting go.
    Giving up can be a wonderful thing. I love Communion of Light’s suggestion: “Give up early and often.”

  • M. says:

    Do you ever think that someone should give up on using the law of attraction deliberately? I’ve been trying to manifest my greatest desires for a decade, and I still don’t have them (living how and where I want to, life partner, dream career, money, lifestyle). It frustrates and angers me a lot. Sometimes I just want to forget about deliberate creation and go back to loving a mediocre life with no hope for anything better and:or taking the action journey. It’s way too difficult to forget about the things I want. I’ve tried everything (techniques, feeling good, giving up and letting go) and still, nothing.

  • Jeannette says:

    Is there any such thing as loving something too much or for too long? Or did you fall out of love with it, Irena?
    Here’s what I would do: remember what I loved and reactivate that. And I might also shift my story about “can’t meet men” to something more helpful. If I tell it different, and stick to that story, sooner or later it has to become true.
    This might also be a good time to reveal any hidden benefits or counter-intentions to meeting men. Namaste Faustino has a great technique for that:

  • Irena says:

    Hi Jeannette,
    I do love myself and I did love been single, so much, that I think, I changed my ‘vibe’ and now cant meet any men!
    So my question is :”what to do if ‘loving been single’ went for too long?

  • anonymous says:

    Thank you Jeannette! I can’t wait to receive my image 🙂 It’s of a special animal that I really, really, really love <3
    Sometimes I catch myself stressing out about having a perfect vibration, or feeling completely positive and attracting things nearly instantly. What feels good to me now is to give that up, accept that my vibe will probably never be 100% clean, and just accept my feelings as they come (because they are transient…they always pass!)
    I like this idea – my angels always have my back. I've experienced so many instances of this in my life it has to be true, and more so, it feels good to believe it's true.

  • Sandeep says:

    Love and regards

  • Amina says:

    I needed this reminder today – perfect timing and great message! It is so easy for me to do for others, and have really had to work to do for myself, like I would another. I think I may take myself out to lunch today! Thanks, Jeanette!!

  • Gary Bodley says:

    Hi Jeanette, This is from Joshua:
    Like attracts like. This is most obvious when one looks at couples. You rarely see two people who are not a match to each other. Typically, couples are about the same level of attractiveness, the rare example of a super model dating a plumber causes you to perk up and take notice. So if you want to attract a high-quality person, you must become a high-quality person yourself.
    If you want to attract a mate who is attractive, would it help or hurt if you became more attractive yourself? If you want to attract a mate who is confident and secure, would it help or hurt you you be confident and secure yourself? If you want a mate who is successful, would it not be a good idea to become successful also? You see where we’re going with this, don’t you?
    If you want a certain quality in a mate, your mate is going to want that same quality in you too. So before you start going out there looking for someone special, become someone special first. If you go out there looking for the ideal mate without doing some work on yourself, you’ll find a mate who is a match to you now. If there’s something about yourself you do not like, you’ll find that aspect mirrored back to you in a very loud and obvious manner. This is the most clear example of the Law of Attraction at work.
    You can attract anyone you want, just be that person first and the universe will bring you together in the most elegant manner imaginable.
    We are Joshua

  • Jeannette says:

    Nice to hear it from another who’s lived it! Thanks, Jamie.
    Loren, glad to hear it hit the spot. Enjoy!

  • Loren says:

    This is perfect, Coach J!!! #justperfect Great advice, right in the moment I need it, confirming the actions that will serve me most. #loveyourself #gethappywhereyouare Count me in! ☺

  • Jamie says:

    Thank you for such a great post! I was single for years and finally figured out what you post here is true.

  • Jeannette says:

    Yes, oana, I’d start with self-love. However you can.
    And I’d remember the power of the story I tell:
    Hope that helps you find a better groove to let in the love you’re looking for, my friend.

  • Jeannette says:

    Brian, that is a beautiful realization to arrive at, isn’t it?!
    Yay for that!
    And Linda, I totally know what you mean about ‘giving up.’ Makes total LOA sense that once we stop ‘needing’ or ‘wanting’ it, and we’re feeling better about ourselves and our situation that that’s when love would show itself again.
    Thanks for chiming in, you two. 🙂

  • oana says:

    Hello Jeannette!
    What can I do if I am not able to release the feeling that there is no time ( I am turning 23 and I have never had a boyfriend, especially because I had a crush on a guy which didn’t feel the same ) and I don’t know, my heart has been closed for such a long time…I am afraid of men I suppose, when someone asks me on a date, I refuse because I feel ashamed of never been with someone…
    Someone told me lately that I need to feel good about myself, to love myself in order to attract the right man and now I have just received your mail with this article:)
    Maybe there’s still hope!

  • LindaA says:

    One thing that has worked for me in the past is to reach a point of giving up. Not just saying it but really meaning it. In 1990 I was so disgusted with relationships that I decided I was done with them and would prefer to be on my own. That actually felt very freeing and right. Of course my future husband (to whom I’m still married), showed up immediately.
    Also, when I have been in a relationship that was working, other men would ask me out all the time. When I was unattached and looking they were nowhere to be found. Guess that says something about attracting what you’re vibing.

    • Liz Joyce says:

      The same thing happened to me. I accepted — truly accepted — that I might not have a significant other in my life, and I was content, happy, fulfilled because, as I realized, “I AM ENOUGH.” Two weeks later, I reconnected with someone I had never spoken to, but had admired for his cuteness, from years before at university. Bam! We’re celebrating our 25th anniversary this September.

      • Natalie says:

        But accepting one is going to end up alone is not a guarantee, right? If I do that still no one may show up in my life and I’ll actually end up alone. I don’t feel ok at all with accepting I will end life alone, I hate it and I don’t think I’ll ever be in peace with that idea (but since I am almost 30 the chances are pretty much zero). Does it mean I am really never gonna have a partner?

        • Jeannette says:

          You know what Abe would say? First, that if you’re trying to accept one thing just to manifest something else, that’s not true acceptance. So don’t even try to fool Universe with that crap.
          Second, you wouldn’t want to manifest a guy in your current vibrational state. Because what that attracts isn’t going to be a good time. Do you know what I mean?
          You want to work on your vibe before you get anyone else in on this party. I hope that makes sense, Natalie. Know I’m sending good vibes your way. 🙂

  • Brian says:

    Here are my thoughts in addition to your post:
    Do you understand that you do not need another person in order to be able to give and receive love?

    That you can feel fulfilled in the love department, and not need a relationship as your reason to feel love?
    It can be challenging to grasp, especially if you haven’t practiced your thoughts on loving yourself, and I get that. But all that really means is to start caring about how you feel. That’s really all that’s required. Start caring about how you feel, focus on thoughts that feel better than thoughts you were previously thinking, and if you do not feel good, focus on feeling relief.

    As you begin caring more about how you feel, and making your intention to soothe yourself and focus on feeling a little better, and feeling a little better, and feeling a little better, and feeling a little better, and feeling a little better, you will be focused more of loving yourself.

    Caring about how you feel, and guiding your thoughts to finding relief and feeling better, is self-love. Loving yourself—feeling, giving and receiving love in the relationship between you and you—is the greatest, and most fulfilling relationship you will ever have. And all other relationships in your life will flow from the core, unconditional, loving relationship you have with yourself. Care about yourself. Care about how you feel. And everything else flows from there.

  • Brian says:

    Great post. Also, here’s some more:
    Do you understand that you do not need another person in order to be able to give and receive love?

    You can feel fulfilled in the love department, and not need a relationship as yourself reason to feel love?

  • Jeannette says:

    Indeed, Aloha, and when we love who we are, it’s very natural and effortless to attract others who feel the same.
    Thanks for reading and for commenting! 🙂

  • Aloha says:

    Thank you Jeannette for all the time & effort you put into your posts for us. It all comes down to first liking ourselves and then learning to love ourselves, even those things that are not ideal and perhaps never will be and being okay with that :)How we FEEL about ourselves is the important lesson I have learnt 🙂
    Wishing you a joyful day!

  • Jeannette says:

    What I’ve found, anonymous, is that I offer mixed vibrations and I get mixed results. And that buffer of time thing sometimes makes it seem like good things happen when I was down, and vice versa.
    Not sure if that’s really the answer, but it makes sense to me.
    Although sometimes I prefer thinking that when something fab happens when I was ‘off’ that it’s because angels have my back.
    PS – congrats on the photography win!! 🙂

  • anonymous says:

    Thank you again, I can really feel the positivity in your writing, a good energy.
    Shortly after I wrote my last comment, I received an email letting me know that I won a photograph in a contest I entered a few days ago. It was a little burst of joy, and I didn’t think I would end up winning, but I did. I am and was still feeling really down and sad, very negative and painful emotions. I notice though that there have been many times when wanted manifestations have come though during times when I was feeling terrible. How is this explained by LOA? It seems contrary to the law.

  • Jeannette says:

    If I couldn’t find the better feeling thoughts my own self, I would tune into someone else who can say them for me. Abraham, P’taah, Kryon – there are a bunch of resources out there who will remind you the truth of your glorious self and that’s where I would immerse myself until I started to feel better. Well, and even after, truth be told.

    • Natalie says:

      Jeannette, I’m in the same situation as her and I also don’t understand how to deal with that. How to feel worthy of a partner when you know men want beautiful girlfriends and value beauty the most in a woman? How to feel it’s possible to have a partner when you don’t know any single men, haven’t had a guy interested in you in years and guys don’t even glance at you? Also I don’t know how to believe it’s possible to have a partner when even the LoA gurus on the internet are all single, with all due respect. Actually, it seems like an epidemic nowadays, most women are always alone while men always have partners. That makes me feel that ending life single will be unavoidable for me and most women, cause there are no marriagable single males available for us.

      • Jeannette says:

        Natalie, you might want to practice ‘knowing’ something different about men. Or yourself. Or preferably both.
        Can you see how your story has to manifest itself? And how you’re telling the exact one you don’t want? Universe can’t deliver you anything different than you expect.
        My story goes like, “This place is CRAWLING with FABULOUS men!” Crawling with them! Everywhere I turn, there’s another AMAZING guy!!
        Look, sometimes that story gets me in a little trouble, but I’ve learned how to manage that really well and I like it way more than the one you tell. You can borrow mine if you like. 🙂
        Universe has to reflect it however you tell it.
        It’s so cool how that works!!

        • Natalie says:

          Jeannette, thank you for answering both of my comments, you are truly amazing 🙂
          I deeply appreciate your tip but there’s still an annoying voice in the back of my mind asking: if the “there are so many men!” process works then why are the famous LoA gurus on the internet all single? If even they are not married I feel like I don’t stand a chance either.
          I don’t know how to accept being single cause it’s been so many years of this and I’m so tired of being lonely and so unhappy about it. I can’t even imagine how it would be to live through more decades of this.
          I do need to work on my vibe but I get very desperate that my time is almost over or if I wait more all the guys will be married and there will be no one left for me. First because everyone around me is partnered up, except for me, and that gets me so so depressed. I have no social life and spend the weekends alone at home cause my friends are all with their boyfriends. Second because I’m about to turn 30 next year and I feel like my chances are over since so many men here say women over 30 are too old. I am scared this LoA work won’t work or that it may take years and then it will be too late for me.

        • Jeannette says:

          Girlfriend, not everyone wants to be married, or have a committed lifetime partner. (Myself included.) Just because someone is single doesn’t mean they’ve failed or that LOA doesn’t work or that Universe ran out of men for us!
          Another thing I want to mention, too, Natalie – a partner won’t cure loneliness. Lots of married people out there will attest to that, I’m afraid. The vibe always rules – that’s why it’s an inside job. Wish I had easier answers, but maybe these ARE the easy answers, because these are things we can manage! We can’t always manage the external but we can certainly work on the internal. 🙂
          Edit: although technically I am facebook married to a wonderful guy that I look forward to meeting in person someday. Next time I’m between boyfriends, perhaps. 🙂

        • Natalie says:

          Thank you so much for answering! One last thing: “We can’t always manage the external” means that even if I do everything right the LoA may not ever bring me a partner for some unsolvable reason?
          I ask that cause sometimes I feel life seems to happen randomly to people cause I see women who don’t love themselves with good lifelong partners and women who love themselves but can’t even get a boyfriend.

  • anonymous says:

    Thanks Jeannette for your quick reply. I’ve been feeling so bad and unable to ignore what’s manifested (how I look/my face) that I cannot reach that emotional state and stay there. Even feeling a little better feels too big a stretch, as silly as that may sound. All I’ve been wanting to do is sleep and shut away the world, not be conscious, etc. I feel guilty for it, but all I want is relief because I feel so bad.
    Living through the conditions I’m currently in feels terrible, not only in terms of my face, but the whole of my current life situation. I have a difficult time stabilising in a better feeling place and constantly compare myself to those on social media who have what I want. What do you do when your actions are compulsive or destructive, and you feel like you cannot control yourself?

  • Jeannette says:

    The thing we want is always a feeling. If we start with the feeling, the thing will come one way or another.
    So what’s the feeling you’ll have when you like how you look?
    Start activating that vibration and solutions or alternative possibilities will reveal themselves.

  • anonymous says:

    Hi Jeannette,
    How do you change physical features (facial features) with LOA? The things I want to change, you cannot alter through surgery (and I don’t think I’d want cosmetic surgery anyway.) It really bothers me to look the way I do though, and I hate not being my ideal of physical beauty. It’s one of the things I want most, to have certain features.
    I’m not physically beautiful enough for the partner I want. I know that you can attract love regardless of looks, but I really hate the way I look. I really want my facial features to change (and no, not just a change in aura/energy to more attractive). My quality of life is really low largely due to looking how I do and feeling horrible about it, but I can never seem to shift my thoughts about my appearance permanently.

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