Vibration Activation: Smooth Divorce | Good Vibe Blog

Activate: Smooth Divorce

manifest a smooth divorceAs part of our vibration activation series, this post is designed to help manifest a smooth divorce.

Use it when you want to align yourself to a healthy, peaceful exit from a marriage contract or long term relationship.

We know this works because whenever we find a way to feel what we want like it’s already here, it cues Universe to make it happen.

One read through should be good for a 17 second vibe activation, and that’s all it takes to make a shift. All you have to do after that is honor inspiration (that is, do what feels good).

If you’ve got an easy divorce story, please share with us in the comments.

Let’s smooth out this divorce:

While others might see divorce as failure, I know better. I know that this is the right thing for us right now. Because we’re here. And whatever’s happening is happening for the best, I know that much.

I also know that there were plenty of good things about the time we spent together, and I’ll continue to celebrate those things, even though our paths are parting.

In fact, it might even be easier to appreciate my partner when we’re on the other side of this breakup. Stranger things have happened! And I’d love for us to have healthy, happy feelings for each even though we’re no longer choosing to build our lives together.

I also know that when I lead this party with positive, appreciative thoughts, then it’s guaranteed that good things unfold for me. My partner doesn’t even have to join me in those thoughts – they get to have their own experience, after all. But I’m strong enough to lead the way solo with love and light if I need to.

Because I’m in charge of how I feel. I’m not subject to circumstances or others’ vibrations – I choose how I want to feel.

And right now I choose peace, I choose acceptance, and I choose happiness.

It’s not hard to imagine that good things are ahead for us all … Universe has such a delightful way of letting things get better and better.

And while there might be a time that I find myself wishing revengeful sorts of things on my ex, I accept that about where I am right now, and I know it’ll pass sooner or later.

For the rough parts that we do traverse, I’ll just outsource things to my angels.  I’ll ask my angels to talk to his angels, and broker a good breakup for us. It’s my intention in the meantime to maintain my equanimity and feelings of love for the parts of our relationship that did work.

After all, I know we both want the same things – we both just want to be happy. And my happiness isn’t conditional on what my partner does or doesn’t do, or on what they want or don’t want. It’s on me. And I can trust my inner guidance to consistently point me in the direction of what feels better.

That’s a path I know how to follow: “what feels better.” That path can only lead to good places.

I might not know how things are going to work out, but I trust that they will.

Even when things might seem to not be going my way, I know that’s just an illusion. Because everything is always working out for me. All I have to do is follow what feels better, whatever that is. And I expect that inner instruction will evolve the better I get at honoring it.

I trust the timing of how things unfold, too, and am grateful for the support I can feel all around in so many different ways as this life transition evolves.

God bless every one of us involved in this divorce – me, my partner, our family, our attorneys, our friends and our home. I’m open to the blessings this development has available, and I intend that all of us become happier, healthier and more aligned as a result of what’s unfolding here now.

Life is good – even (maybe especially) when it brings divorce.

  • February 3, 2013
  • Sara Garcia says:

    Awe, see!! You wrote that like a Vortex PRO, Jeannette! This is going to provide fantastic relief for so many people on the verge of this. Well written! 🙂

  • Evan Griffith says:

    Jeannette —
    My parents may not have had a good divorce necessarily, but they have the kind of post-divorce you’d wish on all divorcers (?!). All thanks to my Mom. She kept calling and inviting my Dad over for holidays and events . . . and eventually he caved.
    They’ve both had subsequent marriages yet it’s their example of harmony post-marriage that to me exemplifies the best of the modern world. They’ve been there for each other, post-divorce, through auto accidents, hurricanes, and catastrophic illnesses.
    My Dad even greets my Mom’s husband this way (exuberantly): “My husband-in-law!”

  • I agree, Namaste. Our attachment to seeing relationships last an entire “lifetime” doesn’t serve us well at all, in my opinion. Allowing relationships to evolve into whatever they want to grow into is a beautiful way to honor ourselves and our partners.
    Love that you’re enjoying a lifetime friendship with your first wife. Thank you so much for posting on this one!

  • Namaste says:

    You attract people into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. Want a life filled with ease and grace? Get good at recognizing the difference between a season and a lifetime. When a season is over, and it’s time to move on, YOU CAUSE something to happen that makes this REALLY clear. Doesn’t mean it’s easy to let go, but the signs are there.
    The interesting thing I learned about this is just because one part of the season is over, doesn’t mean that the entire season is over. My first wife (I don’t call her my ex-wife) and I are the best of friends today. We still care deeply for each other, a lifetime marriage wasn’t right for us, but it looks like a lifetime friendship likely is. It’s so much fun now that we got the marriage out of the way. We hang out, laugh and enjoy each other and all the stuff that didn’t work is ancient history. I’m so glad we got a divorce =)

  • Glad you enjoyed it, Paul.
    Julie, that’s a good point that we sometimes project some of those challenging feelings on our partner when in reality they’re always sourced from within. Love the “crack in everything” quote from Cohen.
    You know, I didn’t elaborate on the “what feels better” part of this equation – but it’s worth mentioning that sometimes “what feels best” is to use a few swear words or let ourselves be mad/sad/whatever or to reinforce a position of power. It might not be pretty, but sometimes that’s the path to what DOES look like love & light. Skipping or resisting that part doesn’t serve us OR work too well.

  • julie masters says:

    Yes, it is very possible to go through divorce peacefully, and an ending is not a failing!
    I think it’s also important to remember that divorce is something you do, a process (even when it’s not a legal process)that you can complete quickly or slowly, with love or hatred–but it’s still just something you DO, not something you ARE.
    I also found it more empowering to realize that a lot of the painful emotions that divorce brought up, were about the loss of my own dreams of love and marriage, rather than the loss of the person I had been married to. When I felt painful sadness or raging anger, I was able to remind myself (eventually–after feeling it first! :))that I was sad and angry about the unfulfilled dream that the man represented, not the man himself. In a situation that can often feel so out of personal control, it was sweet relief to be able to take my own powerful perspective back in that way!!
    In the words of the wonderful Leonard Cohen…
    Ring the bells that still can ring
    Forget your perfect offering
    There is a crack in everything
    That’s how the light get in

  • Paul Hardy says:

    Thank you, Jeanette. <3

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