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LOA Success Secret #1: Get Right with Yourself

law of attraction success secret #1: Get Right With YourselfThis is secret #1 from our Law of Attraction Success Secret series.

What’s the single most powerful thing you can do to manifest what you want?

Get right with yourself.

Meaning, get on board with your divine nature. Recognize your worthiness, see your perfection, love yourself unconditionally.

Preferably in this moment – not after X, Y or Z changes. Get in the habit of approving of yourself as is, right now.

Anyone who has read Art of Self Love won’t be surprised that this is my #1 law of attraction success secret.

I’ve been saying this for a while, so it isn’t really my “secret.” But even those who understand the power of practicing self-love and approval don’t necessarily practice it.

(See my thoughts on that subject.)

Feeling less than fab about yourself is a good thing to change in order to experience strong vibrational alignment.

Because the Universe can only be as good to you as you are to yourself.

I can tell you from personal experience that self-love isn’t the easiest thing to practice, especially in a culture where self-loathing is pandemic. But I strongly believe it’s the most rewarding practice, not just for our manifesting success, but also for our life enjoyment and fulfillment.

So where does one begin?

I wrote that self love ebook specifically because so many clients didn’t know where to start or what the practice looks like. I’ve been doing this work consciously for years now, and making good progress, but I want you to know the process doesn’t have to be complicated.

In fact, relationship expert LiYana Silver shares these two simple steps in her lovely article about feeling good about yourself:

Start noticing what IS, rather than what we wish to be so.

LiYana says “we spend all our time wishing things were different, pondering why they are not different, trying to make them different, all in order to conform to our ideas of how things should go. It is a uniquely human trait to spend so much time ignoring what IS, and creating elaborate fantasies where things are different.” In short, get present.

Next after noticing what IS, is to notice what is already good.

I couldn’t say it better than LiYana does: “Our lives and selves are rich, full, convenient and blessed, if we only stop to notice and put our attention there.

Something magical happens when we find something to approve of, the way things ARE, right now, right here. We ‘get right’ with reality; we get ‘right’ with ourselves.”

A woman who approves of herself is “right” with herself, the way she is, in reality, right here and right now. She doesn’t wait to start approving of herself for the fantastical time in the indeterminate future when she will be perfect. She does it now. Today. Against the tide. Again and again and again. She doesn’t wait for the circumstances of her life to line up just right, she celebrates what IS, NOW.

That, I believe, is the #1 law of attraction success secret. Get right with yourself.
universe can only be as good to you as you are to yourself

It means:

  • dropping habits of self-loathing
  • living in your integrity (whatever that means for you)
  • honoring what your heart and soul call for
  • eliminating tolerations
  • treating yourself the way you treat loved ones
  • recognizing your brilliant, lovable, beautiful self

When you live like that that, Universe can’t help but shower you with more good stuff. Although that way of living is reward enough in itself.

But don’t take my word for it – see for yourself!

And please share your self-love tips and experiences in the comments to encourage others about the power of this work.

  • June 24, 2012
  • Kim Falconer says:

    Love love love the #1 tip. Thank you, Jeannette!
    How do I get right with me? Here are my favorite tips:
    Meditation – those alpha waves help with allowing for self-repair, non judgment, open heart and connection to the oneness of all life. I make peace with myself.
    Astrology – this symbol system empowers us by teaching authenticity regardless of the current social paradigm. It teaches appreciation of all perspectives. I make peace with the diversity of expressions.
    Connection – being with like minded others, immersing in nature, helping those without a voice (trees, animals, environments) links me to the greater whole, to source, and really, what’s not to love there? I make peace with the universe.
    I look forward to reading other people’s tips. Thank you again, Jeannette. These secrets have have been so inspiring!

  • Jrnnigrt says:

    … and then going after it like you’re about to take it out for a test drive “let’s take this baby for a spin, and see what it can do!” 🙂

  • Andrea says:

    Kim, I love your points, uncommon and wonderful! I like to do a mantra “I am for me” from a quote by Rabbi Hillel
    “If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?”
    This kind of sums up how I have undone some of the weird programming I have gotten in my life which is to consider everyone but myself. It helps me get that point of focus in place so the love can flow!

  • Kim Falconer says:

    Love the Rabbi Hillel quote! Thank you!

  • lib says:

    This can be really tricky, but I find it a lot easier to love and respect myself when I think of ‘me’ as my Inner Being. It’s much harder to be judgmental or critical of something that is a pure positive energy. The point is to evolve, to experience and to expand, so whatever we do is taking things forward in some way. And we’re doing a good job of it.

  • JG. says:

    I think I specially liked: “Start noticing what IS, rather than what we wish to be so.”
    One usual advise is to pretend things to be different to what they are. But accepting them the way they are, is to me a very good starting point to feeling good.

  • Janelle says:

    Yes! When I coach weight loss clients we start by noticing the truth, observing it, and finding the beauty in the truth. This is really challenging for people who avoid photos, mirrors, or other objects that reveal truth, but it’s absolutely necessary. Some of my favorite tips are:
    * Find one thing about your body that you like and post it as an affirmation that you read daily.
    * Chuck out any clothes that don’t fit anymore (even if you’re saving them for when you lose the weight) and buy clothes that are attractive on you, right now.
    * Ask your friends what they love about you and turn those into affirmations that you read every day.
    Thanks again for a great post!

  • Brenda says:

    It used to be that I’d practice self love only after I’d accomplished something…and usually that accomplishment was something I dreaded accomplishing. lol I wasn’t conscious that I was doing this for many years.
    I would, for example, refrain from doing yoga (which makes me feel great) until after I’d studied for hours for a competition at work. I wouldn’t use that beautiful body butter on the shelf until after I’d dropped a little weight. I’d say “okay” to the guys when they asked me to help pull a washing machine up the stairs, and when they’d yell “PUUUUUULLL” I’d pull harder, when my inner guidance was whispering “please don’t” (I went through a solid month of excruciating back pain for not listening).
    Now, I’ll get out of the shower and take a good long, loving look at my amazing body, weight, flaws and all, and I take a moment to feel so grateful for how it’s serving me. Then I take that body butter off the shelf and use it, breathing in its delicious scent, knowing I deserve it NOW, just as I am.
    I’ll do yoga first…and, actually, I’m not studying for any competition ever again, unless I’m inspired and it feels kinda delicious…and that hasn’t happened yet. 🙂
    Want me to pull your washing machine up the stairs? Just ask me; I’m sooo itching to say a soft but firm “nooo” to any such request. 🙂

  • Awesome-sauce. I just was thinking of this – and made a thread in this vein on the (and I mentioned this in the comments on your previous post).
    My inspiration tonight was about envy. Usually we think about how we envy others – and often we don’t think about what others may envy about US. But if you focus on it – you can turn anything about your life (even the perceived negative stuff) and realize that someone will look at that very situation with envy.
    One example I gave in the thread was a personal one – I’m not currently at my ideal weight. In fact, it’s been bugging me for a while. However, once this inspiration to flip the envy switch occurred to me, I realized that someone who is morbidly obese (or even someone who weighs 50 pounds more than me) would rather be my size/weight. Meanwhile, someone who considers their body to be too skinny/painfully thin would envy that I have curves (or would rather deal with trying to lose weight than trying to gain weight).
    Anyhoo, I’m inspired to make lists of all sorts of things that even if I don’t think of it as a big deal (or even a good thing) that someone would envy/want for themselves. I’ve been doing it in my head for an hour or so and I feel better already – definitely feeling more appreciation and acceptance for my what is as it is right now.

  • Elizabeth says:

    I have been slowly removing clothing that doesn’t fit, as well as beloved darlings (in the form of clothing – things that are “cute enough”, but not that cute). I must say that it feels really nice to only have things that I love to wear, though I am not entirely used to it yet. 😉
    It seems strange to me sometimes, but the thing that has helped me learn to love myself more is learning more about myself in the form of epiphanies, insights, etc. Somehow, the act of realizing that there is always a reason why I do things, even things I don’t love that I do, makes me feel so much more love and compassion for myself in all moments.

  • Cat says:

    I totally agree with Stacy about finding something good about something you dislike — appearance, personality trait, whatever. I find it really helps shift the thoughts that run through my mind, because whenever the automatic negative thought pops up, I remember the good-thing rebuttal. They cancel each other out, sort of, and I end up feeling more neutral about whatever it is, and even not thinking as much about it at all.
    I also get right with myself by learning about myself — introspection, self-investigation… I can’t love who I am if I don’t KNOW who I am! For those interested in learning more about themselves and self-compassion:
    I’m a 4.16! 🙂

  • Janette says:

    Ooh, my favourite topic!
    One of my go-to strategies for self-love is to remember that ANY thought which feels bad or painful is a big fat hairy LIE.
    My Higher Self (aka intuition, spirit, source, inner guidance, God….) knows that I am love. That I am perfect, just as I am, right here, right now.
    That is a Truth, a constant.
    Any painful emotion is nothing more nor less than a memo from my inner guidance system to let me know that – in that moment – I’m thinking a thought that is not 100% lined up with the Truth.
    In other words, any thought that feels ‘bad’ (I’m too fat, I’m too old, I’m not old enough, I’m too dumb, I’m not educated enough, I’m too smart for my family, I’ll never fit in, I’m not enough…) – we can tell that thought is untrue because it makes us feel bad.
    And once we realise that, we kinda have no option but to let it go. If it comes back (they do, sometimes), we get to let it go again. And each time, we get a little hit of juicy, good-feeling relief – and we KNOW that’s good for us.
    How beautifully elegant and simple is this system??? 😀

  • Pernille Madsen says:

    I love that self-love is your #1
    To me this includes:
    being as caring, understanding, supportive, loving, accepting and kind to myself as I am to my loved ones.
    Pleasure before business (at least some times)
    Making how I feel a top priority
    allowing myself to be who I really am in stead of caring about what others think about me

  • Trudi says:

    I would add the stellar advice of Edwene Gaines: Forgive everyone everything – especially yourself. Holding grudges against yourself is one great way to foster self-loathing.
    Great Post- Thanks!

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