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The Dreaded LOA Question

You might know this routine …

You’ve got your LOA groove on, dialed onto what you want, seeing your future success, feeling how it feels – everything we’re supposed to do to signal Universe that we’re a match for this desire.

All systems are go.

And then some well-meaning loved one asks, “How’s it going?”

They don’t realize that asking us to report on what’s happening is like someone dragging the needle in the middle of Beethoven’s Fifth. Or finding a bandaid in your bite of chocolate cake.

Answering that question can ruin the rhythm and distract our focus in a way that slows down (or even blocks) our desire from manifesting.

Unless things are going great right now. In which case it’s a fabulous question to answer!

It gives us a chance to revel in the good vibes and attract even more good stuff.

But when present reality is NOT great …

When we’re still in the early stages – or even the late stages where not much seems to be happening or going our way – it can be a brutal question!

Because this stage of manifesting can be a vulnerable time, and because taking score too soon doesn’t help. Reporting on the current state of our reality isn’t usually helpful.

So here are five ways to manage the dreaded LOA question, when a well-meaning friend asks for a status report on our dream:

1. Answer a different question.

Instead of answering how things are right now, you can answer a slightly different question that has a dramatically different vibration.

Maybe instead of telling how it’s going you could share:

  • What I’m enjoying now is …
  • What I’m looking forward to soon is …
  • A recent win I’m celebrating is …
  • Reasons to believe things are going my way include …

Just because they asked for a rundown of present reality doesn’t mean you have to give it. Answer a more helpful question instead.

2. Deflect the question.

Sometimes the easiest thing to do is not answer at all.

Instead, just nod and smile and ask how things are for them.

Changing the subject may be your best option, especially with folks who like to talk about themselves.

You can always explain why you’re not talking about the current status of your project if it feels appropriate.

3. Train them to new questions.

Speaking of explaining, you might save yourself a lot of trouble by just training your people how to better engage you on this sensitive subject of your dream creation.

You can offer suggestions as to how they can more supportively express interest in your project.

You can even ask them to refrain from engaging on this subject unless YOU initiate.

It may help to explain that talking about “what is” isn’t very helpful, and that you’re keeping things to yourself in the meantime.

Let them know they’ll be the first to hear your good news when you’re ready to share.

4. Script your answer.

This is my personal favorite, if the situation warrants it.

Instead of telling how it is, tell it how you’d rather it be!

It won’t be appropriate for every occasion or conversation, but there are many times when this is a good chance for us to practice what our success sounds like when shared with another person.

5. Answer Half Full

Look, we’re conscious creators – we’re skilled at seeing what’s going right.

This is a great chance to answer the question with the parts that are working out. Even if they’re slim parts …

  • “I’m getting good clarity about what works and what doesn’t …”
  • “I’m learning how to do things I’ve never done before …”
  • “I’m cooking up a heck of a rags to riches story!”

Anything that lets you focus on the positive while still answering the question will serve you and your manifesting success.

Indeed, answering the “how’s it going” question can be a good exercise for YOU to train your attention toward what’s working.

And worst case scenario … you don’t have to answer at all. “Nunna yur bizness” is a valid answer, too.

If you’ve got other tips for answering the dreaded LOA question, we’d love to hear them.

(Listen to this episode at the podcast.)

  • August 4, 2017
  • Snehil says:

    Well this question is asked only when u have this question yourself , outside world is a reflection of ur inner self , remember. I always say “things are looking good” , and then reflect on myself and root out the impatiance that is asking me to check the progress.

  • Chip says:

    The answer to “How’s it going?” has a lot to do with your perspective. If you are going about your business trying to manifest something when someone asks, and you look honestly–which you do no matter what your answer–you are going to come up short in your own eyes.
    But manifestation does not happen on a time line. There’s no process to follow, no formula you can learn, no habit/trauma/thought/emotion to overcome. Everything comes from right here right now.
    From this perspective, the question “How’s it going?” works for you, as does everything else you are manifesting, and you are manifesting everything you sense, think and remember. The answer is always going to be “exactly as it should be.”
    Now if you ask yourself how can this be true, because I don’t see blah blah blah, or I don’t have evidence of what I want, the answer will feel badly so you know you are of track.
    The truth is, everything is always going exactly as it should be. And this is not because the Universe has some master plan. It’s because everything you are experiencing is your creation.
    This gives you 100% freedom because if you don’t like how you feel, you can change it. And everyone in this groups knows what you have to do to change it, you just find a thought that feels like relief from where you are right now.
    And it’s truly not that big a deal. Since everything is created right here right now, you can’t get it wrong. If you think you are off track, you can find a better feeling thought.

  • Jas says:

    So true! A friend had asked this a couple of times in past months when things were challenging. I chose to “be honest” at the time rather than deflect or anything. After all, I thought maybe she may have some input I hadn’t thought about.
    Now, things are on track and today when we spoke, she didn’t ask! Here I was ready to share the good news. When I told her, she didn’t really get how important it was to me to share it. Lol. Now that I’m calmer, I guess I’m not attracting the concern of others! They’re just expecting things are great.

  • Oh man, I love this collection!
    I’ve learned not to dread that question so much because it’s given me a powerful way to build the muscle of focusing on what I want, not what-is.
    And I’m a wordsmith, so I kinda have fun playing with the nuance of an answer which SOUNDS like I’m answering, but actually I’m being highly selective.
    It’s the politician’s trick of answering the question you actually wanted them to ask in the first place heheh.
    This is a great resource Jeannette. Thanks!!

  • Brent says:

    I like to answer that question with a question:
    “Wouldn’t YOU like to know?” 😉
    Adds a little humor and gets me off the hook from the nitty gritty of my manifestation processes.

  • Mitch says:

    This question drives me BONKERS!!! I’ve got some worriers in my life who, God bless ’em, are experts at taking the wind out of my sails. I can actually feel myself getting a little triggered just thinking about it. 😉 Thanks for the tips on how to deal with this, and also the reminder that *I don’t have to* answer this question if I don’t choose. Sometimes I feel such an obligation to answer “honestly” that I do it even though I don’t want to, and kill my vibe in the process. From now on, nunya bizness is my go-to.

    • Mitch, I have someone in my life who is just like this. My Mum and I both know not to give him too much detail about me, because neither of us needs to manage his [completely unwarranted] anxiety about me.
      I learned a potent way to shut down an unwanted conversation if and when it happens.
      I very rarely have to actually use it – but even just knowing that I know it, seems to make a difference. As though my awareness of this power attracts people not asking me.
      [Hm…. wonder how that works….. lol]
      It is simply “I’m not available for that conversation”.

  • Leslie says:

    I get this all the time and am also guilty of asking. But I’m great at answering! My answer is always “I’m doing great! Life is good! I went to the beach and walked yesterday!” Or something similar like how perfectly perfect my granddaughters are. Then I ask them how they are doing and the conversation continues. 🙂

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