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5 Tips When Contrast Reigns

My research is fresh for this one. I’ve recently traveled the fields of high contrast.

Actually, it’s fair to say I’m still processing remnants of it and finding my way back to a good groove again.

But with this recent experience in mind, I thought I’d pass along a couple tips that have helped me through dark times.

The next time you’re dealing with something highly unwanted (like divorce, job loss, financial troubles, loss of a loved one, health issues, or whatever might have you feeling like the world is crashing around you), here are five things for conscious creators to remember:

1. This won’t last forever.
It might seem like the end of the world, but it really will get better. It’s just your time for contrast.
Ride it out to get to the other side, where life gets even better as a result of what you’re living through now. It’s just a time of “step one.” It doesn’t last forever.

2. It’s okay to not feel okay.
Sometimes conscious creators get nervous about feeling bad, because of that whole like attracts like thing. And sometimes we have judgment about not being able to get to a better feeling place on a dime.

But the thing is resisting feeling bad just makes it worse. So let yourself feel whatever you feel, and know that’s the best way to move on.

3. Lay low in the meantime.
This is a good time to cut yourself lots of slack from daily life. Make some room in your schedule for you and eliminate whatever you can that doesn’t offer relief.

Know that while it might be helpful to share what you’re going through with a trusted friend or two as a way to process, you might not want to broadcast your current experience to the entire world. The last thing you need is everyone you know sending “sorry” vibes your way.

You’ve got enough on your plate without others amplifying negative energy by worrying or feeling concerned about you. Plus, it gives you a break from having to talk about it with everyone who wants to know how you’re doing.

Not to mention it takes a lot of energy to process heavy emotions, so give yourself plenty of solo time to do so.

4. Thoughts that feel bad aren’t true.
This one has been a lifesaver lately … every time a scary thought gets hold and threatens to do its worst, I remember what Abe says about thoughts that don’t feel good:
If a thought doesn’t feel good, that means my inner being doesn’t agree with it. Which means Source sees things differently. That’s my cue to practice seeing it differently, too.

I also found Byron Katie’s four questions with a turnaround helpful in finding better-feeling thoughts.

But whatever you do, remember that any thought that doesn’t feel good isn’t even true, so no need to obsess on it.

5. Don’t go it alone.
You might feel totally alone in what you’re going through, but you’re not. You’ve got a team of divine support that you can call on for help.

I asked my angels and guides to help me feel better and help me see things differently. I asked them to help me sleep, and to help me reconnect with Source. I asked them to handle other things for me while I’m in this space, and I asked them to help me know whatever I need to know.

Use your higher power, whoever that is for you, to get top notch support in place.

You’ve probably got incarnated support as well, so let friends and loved ones help however they can. It’ll be good for both of you.

And know that I’m also sending the love your way when it feels like all is lost. It’s no fun to go through dark times, but it isn’t forever and you’re not alone.


  • June 7, 2018
  • Jody Q says:

    I am so grateful for the stability in my life. I am so grateful for the studio apartment I live in. I am so very grateful for the wonderful job I have. I repeat this hundreds of times per day while living in the back of my truck. Overcoming hunger. And I am pregnant is really where I get stuck.

  • Thanks for sharing, Jeanette. I’ve been up and down myself and sometimes feel really low. Sending love to you too. <3

  • Annette Clarabut says:

    Jeannette, you are beautiful. I so appreciate you for sharing that you, too have contrast. Your post reminded me of something I wrote recently:
    A Word
    I want a word to say when I am delighted.
    When I encounter Grace along the path,
    When I am overwhelmed by love
    When the plane alights safely
    When the prognosis is good
    When the flood waters recede
    When the flower blooms,
    I say this word. It means, “Yes. This. Yes.”
    I want a word to say when I am devastated.
    When I don’t get the job
    When I am standing by the grave
    When he doesn’t love me back
    When the car won’t start
    I say this word. It means, “Yes. This. Yes.”
    Blessings to you all!

    • Jiya says:

      Wow so profound!! If you don’t mind can i use this poem on my blog under selfhelp/LOA tips section? I will give you all credits. Thank you.

  • fatima says:

    Thank you for this post. Like you and many of the above respondents, I’m having my own dark night of the soul and reading this article was a helpful reminder to let go of obsessing and ruminating over a situation and try to focus on baby steps to feeling better. It can be hard, esp. when your brain is trying to control the situation by demanding an immediate solution or refusing to accept an outcome…but I’m trying to remember that forcing answers from this energy standpoint won’t work and may likely do more harm. Working on baby steps to releasing pain and feeling better will improve energy and then, maybe, a better experience will find its way in.

  • CJ says:

    Solid and lovely post here Jeannette. My receiving this is a sign from the Universe that others are having struggles around very similar issues and affirming to me that it is okay to do what I am doing to be wellness; laying low, being ease and gratitude for what energy allows. This gives me reminders that it will get through to the other side.
    Thank you for offering us a peek into your humanness!

  • Anonymous says:

    When I got my VW Golf, I suddenly started seeing them all over the place, still do.
    I too have recently experienced the transitioning of our cat Zoomers. I learned much from my son who was devastated for a few hours, sad for a day, ready for another by the next, really wanting another ever since.
    My point, however, is that since we let Zoomers go, I now know of
    five other quadrupeds who’ve also shed this mortal coil.
    Great blog, Jeannette. I’ve become rather adept at #3 (laying low) over the years – pity does not bode well no matter what the perspective. When someone who knew Zoomers learns that he’s gone, I say thank you, have a hug, and launch right into a couple of sentences on the highlights of his life. Instant vibe changer for all involved 🙂
    Putting this list in my journal, on my wall – maybe even laminate it for my bathroom!

  • Kathleen says:

    Thank you, Jeannette! This has been a difficult month for me as well. My darling dog crossed over, and I am powerfully sad. I am also to the point where I can think about her, and the fun, beautiful times we had together. Even though I am crying, I am laughing as well when I recall her crazy antics. This is my time for contrast, and I am learning from it. Thanks for the suggestion of asking my Higher Ups to help me at this time. They are always around in my good times, and I know they will be there for me now if I ask. Much love to you, and to the other contributors on this thread – you have helped me so much.

  • Jacqui says:

    You are a truly beautiful human, Jeannette Maw.
    I have learned so much from you about how to feel good. And from my own life about how to feel it all fully, to recognise contrast, to stay in the joy and privilege of it all. I’ve often struggled with staying positive when I’m being carved out for deeper loving and bigger joys, through the ‘unwanted’. I’ve learned the power in not resisting. Moving through. Trusting. Surrounding myself with support. ‘Doing’ grief wholeheartedly. It’s a beautiful life, isn’t it?
    As you might say: big love.

  • great blog post, I recently created a post on the power of a gratitude rock. I feel when times are hard to just focus on one thing to be grateful for. this then shifts your focus and you can find more things to be grateful for.

  • Wendy Onizak says:

    Hi Jeannette,
    I had to put my cat Meeka down June 1, so I can relate to your post.
    I asked my mother, who is my spirit guide, how to move on.
    The message she sent me was to allow myself to feel the hurt and pain. Cry. Wail. Feel the emotion. I have cried so many tears in the past week and even now I am tearing up thinking about Meeka. It was particularly hard because I didn’t know what was going on with her. I just knew something was very wrong.
    The message also said that once the emotion is spent, focus on the memories of that sweet little cat. Okay, I added “sweet little cat.”
    I also asked my mom what happened, what was the illness. She sent me off on a Google search. That search came up with blocked intestines.
    When we need support, our spirit guides are there, by our side, helping us through everything. We just need to be open to knowing it.

  • Ming says:

    I the thought too that if I’m going through all this contrast that must mean there is something amazing on the other side when I get through. I have experienced that to be true. I agree too when you say, no need to go looking for contrast, it will come on its own having our human experience here.
    Sending you lots of love always. 🙂

  • Susann says:

    Jeannette, thanks for sharing this with us. I’m going to add a 6th thing to your list that’s something I usually need to remind myself: having Crap happen does NOT mean we suck at this LOA business. It doesn’t mean we’re lousy conscious creators or that we don’t know what we’re doing or that we’ve somehow failed at the whole manifesting thing. Once I remember to accept that contrast is part of the whole life process — when I can say, hey, it’s not me, it’s how this works, it even happens to Jeannette 🙂 — I can let go of self-criticism & doubt & look at the other 5 things you’ve listed here & get back to feeling good enough to start the shift to “better”. Blessings!

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